There are many times in my life where I made a stupid decision to relapse, and it ended up being for no reason at all.
Sometimes you can justify in your mind that it absolutely is the right thing to do at that moment in time.
Like if you were at the coolest concert ever and you’d only been off smoking for like 2 days, then you’ll totally justify relapsing.
And I can understand that.
I’ve been there many times.
But you most likely wouldn’t have put yourself into that situation of having to decide in the first place if you knew 100% that you were going to a concert in a few days.
What I’m talking about is relapsing days before whatever “event” is coming up, only to get to that moment, and the event doesn’t even take place, so you smoked in vain.
Half the time, those future events don’t even happen.
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Let me explain.
Let’s say you quit smoking on a Monday, and you’re all excited about it.
Then on Tuesday, you get a text from a friend inviting you to a party.
Right at that moment, the withdrawal strikes really hard and you begin to think about that party and get scared you won’t be able to not smoke and still have fun.
So, because the party was more important to you, you relapsed on that Tuesday.
The weekend rolled around and plans changed. No more party.
Guess what?
This happened to me many times.
I relapsed because I couldn’t fathom an event coming up on the weekend, so I smoked the entire week instead of quitting.
Only to find out the event never happens, and I smoked the whole week for no reason.
It made me so mad.
Then I would smoke more and more and end up at the bars drinking my problems away.
It’s almost like the drug was tricking me into relapsing and convincing me I couldn’t make through those events.
What I should’ve done is forget about those future events all together.
I wouldn’t remember them anyways.
Looking back on my life, I hardly remember what daily life was like month to month and year to year, let alone all those parties.
I should’ve just kept to myself for a few weeks and not allowed myself to be tempted by parties and concerts.
So in order to successfully quit, you MUST say no to everything in the near future.
Make some time for yourself and really focus on quitting, and focus on making it through the day.
Don’t worry about the future. Don’t worry about that party on Saturday.
You can go to the next party.
There will always be another party.
Quit smoking, take some time off to focus on yourself, and then slowly re-introduce yourself back into your social life.
Nice to find this blog and people talking about it. I’m 30 years old single mother , smoker for over 10 years. I stopped in between for almost 2.5 years here and there and today I’m on Day 20 !!!! And I really want his to be the last time I stop and never light again !!!
Is there hope ! I stopped cold turkey , no patch or replacement and I’m feeling much better, today I felt I can breathe so nicely but cravings do pass by especially when I’m emotional or sad or worried, will it ever end ? Is there hope the fight will be easier !? When ? Is it true after 3 months will be better, I stopped before for more and always relapsed … any advice :(???
morning , i am on 48 days
i say i want a smoke and dont.
i talk alot more since my newest baby
loves stories all day long. sore throats
are the worst since i quit , i find it hard to rest and sleep when this occurs ..boo..:)
i always know itll pass , im doing more baking and still out walking
use the stairs a million times its really quite fun ! 48 days hooray !
Im on day 8 and the last couple days have been tough. I struggle to go without in work on breaks and the time i really crave is between 4pm and 8pm. Is this weird??. I am cold turkey as last time i quit i used gum amd became addicted to tgat instead, that was 8 years ago
I tried hard till 84 days. I also convinced my friends but when I meet my old friends unable to tell them and relapsed. Now from next day dealing with withdrawal symptoms. I’m writing this comment to distract my mind from strong cravings.
I quit smoking for 21 days and relapsed because I really thought that the world was going to end with all that North Korea bullshit that was going on and nothing came of it. Was I pissed! All that effort for nothing. This time when I quit nothings going to change my mind if the world ends it ends. There’s nothing I can do about it except go out as a non-smoker. Yes!
I’m so upset with myself! I made it 48 days not smoking and Saturday May 20th I smoked! I had another cigarette Sunday and 2 on Monday. Today I bought a pack I smoked half of a cigarette from the pack and now the pack is on my coffee table. I’m so disappointed in myself! I prepared before I quit. I felt great each day that I completed and now I feel like such a loser. What do I do?
You learn from your mistakes and learn what NOT to do next time. Figure out why you decided to throw 48 days away and what made you do it. Conquer that fear and start over and succeed this time. Congrats on making it that far! That’s a lot! I know you can beat that record.